It is very important to make sure that you are giving the kids a regular bedtime, not just for their own sleep habits and routine development, but for your marriage as well. Take a moment to review the following reasons why spending time together after putting kids to bed is important.
It Gives You That Quality Time
As you probably already know, many couples with children tend to spend all of their time cooking meals, cleaning up, playing with the kids, running to the doctors, and driving everyone to their activities. There isn’t much time for the husband and wife to come together and relax.
If you allow your children to run wild until late at night, when you are ready to pass out, you might find that you are simply too exhausted at the end of it all to do anything else other than going to bed. This is not good – at least not for every night of the week.
When the kids go to bed at a decent hour, there is still plenty of time for you and your spouse to watch television, pop in a movie, cook a late night snack together, or simply sit and chat with a cup of coffee.
You Have A Chance To Regroup
You need the chance to calm your body and mind after dealing with a super long day of craziness. After all, you are going to be expected to get up bright and early in the morning and do it all again.
This does not mean that you have to start yoga or meditation in order to regroup, although those things would not be the worst of ideas. Sometimes, all you need is a little peace and quiet moment, even if you are just simply sitting in your living room with the lights out so that you can relax a little.
It might not seem like a lot, but just that little bit of time can really do wonders for your mind and soul. It can also help make you a better parent and spouse. The two of you will be less likely to fight so often because you are not always on the go with a million things running through your mind.
You Get To Know Each Other Again
Have you ever heard of married couples complaining that after their kids were grown and gone they discovered that it is as though they no longer know each other? That is the worst, especially when it comes to you with such force and so abruptly.
The thing is, we are always changing – little by little. If you wait 18 years to find out how your spouse has changed then yes, it might come to you as a little bit of a shock to the system. However, by making sure that you are doing little things, such as spending time together in the late evening before bed, you will have a chance to keep up with each other. You will learn more things about each other than you could any other way. This will also help to make sure that you are not in total shock several years from now when the kids go off to college.
As you can tell, there are many good reasons why you will want to make sure that you and your spouse are spending plenty of time together after the kids go to bed.
“Spend more intentional time with your spouse despite a busy schedule.”