Who has given you a helping hand on your journey to success? How have you thanked them?
Coach Wooden said, “It takes 10 hands to score a basket.”
Show Appreciate to Others Who Made You Successful:
“Coach Wooden insisted that his players always acknowledge the help and support they received from other members of the team. For example, a player who scored a basket after receiving a pass from a teammate was expected to acknowledge the assist as he headed back up the court to play defense – usually by pointing, smiling, winking, or nodding at the man who had helped create the scoring opportunity.” (From Pat Williams book “How to Be Like Coach Wooden”)
Some players asked, “But Coach, what if he [the teammate who gave the assist] isn’t looking?”
“Believe me,” Wooden replied, “he’ll be looking!”
Give thanks to others for helping you. Even a nod or a smile is a good start.
Coach Wooden “understood that EVERYONE needs acceptance and approval.”
Do it now motto:
As a young child, I learned the value of hard work from my parents, Robert J Frank, the first college graduate of his family who then went on to graduate medical school to become a doctor and surgeon. Dad first worked as a waiter at a restaurant near the University of Virginia to pay for college. Later he was an assistant to his Professor of Physics teaching classes at the university. My momma, Romayne Leader Frank, worked as a lifeguard and model to put her through college at the University of Michigan to become a school teacher. After marrying Dad, she finished her education at the University of Virginia earning a teacher’s degree. Latter Momma worked to pay for Dad’s residency and internship in medicine at Sears and Roebucks as a salesperson and on the side wrote political speeches for politicians at $50 a speech. A married woman in those days was not allowed to teach school.
As I was growing up my Dad’s patients were fishermen and farmers who paid for Dad’s services with fish and vegetables. Money was hard to come by. We always had a garden in the back yard growing vegetables and learned to till the soil with rakes, plant seeds, pull weeds, and pick the crops for meals. As a child every week, my parents gave me a “list of chores” to do, including mowing the lawn, trimming the bushes, and taking care of my younger siblings. My parents said as a member of this family you will do these chores “now”! There were no excuses. The work had to be done immediately!
What did I learn from the discipline of doing these chores, “there do it now” principle?
Whether it was washing dishes, mowing the lawn, doing a homework assignment that was due in a week- my parents’ motto was “Do it now!” Do not wait! You will be busy later.
These chores gave me the discipline for my future. When I went to college and was given an assignment due a few days after, I would do the assignment immediately! Later when something needed immediate attention, like a doorknob would be falling off, I would immediately repair it! Whatever needed to be done I would do it “immediately”, remembering my parents’ motto, “Do it now!” These chores taught me to be responsible, accountable, respectful to others, and appreciative of any kindness given.
When I was 8 years old, Momma, Romayne L. Frank, went back to school at the College of William and Mary to earn her law degree. She graduated at the top of her class and was one of the first women to graduate law school from William and Mary Law School. Momma is a lawyer practicing family law and real estate law.
After school one day, Momma smiled at me and said “we are going for a new adventure to the bank.” She took me by the hand and we proudly walked into the bank, a large imposing building. Momma introduced me to the teller at the bank, Mrs. Jay, and asked me to hand in the $2, I had been saving. That day the teller entered my $2 into my new passbook, typed in my name on the outside of the book, and explained, I would receive interest every day for the money I put in the bank.
Every couple of weeks Momma would take me into the bank so I could add in the money I had saved from doing my chores. I enjoyed watching the money grow in that savings account. She taught me not only to put my chore money in but later my future paychecks into my account to start saving for the future. By the time I went to college, I had saved a nice nest egg for the future. Momma’s financial success lessons continued through college and graduate school. She shared her financial success lessons with her clients, friends, and family members.
To honor my Momma’s financial success lessons, I have shared Momma’s lessons with my children, family members, friends, and my students in four articles on the net, covering her financial success principles to guarantee your financial success.
How did I thank my parents for teaching me to be disciplined and responsible?
By sharing their life lessons with others, by writing articles, and by radio shows sharing their life lessons with others.
Teaching the Discipline of Hard Work:
Meredith Lynn MacRae, the actress, credits her parent’s singer/actor, Gordon MacRae, and actress, Sheila MacRae “with instilling a proper work ethic in her and for keeping her feet on the ground.”
She said, “We lived in a modest home in the San Fernando Valley instead of the fashionable Beverly Hills, which the family could have afforded. Mom and Dad didn’t want us to feel superior to the other kids. I had to earn the things I wanted, all the way from dolls to party gowns, by doing chores around the house and taking care of my younger sister and brothers. Lots of kids in my circle automatically got a car when they were 16. Not me. Dad said he would get me a car when I got straight A’s two years in a row in school. I slaved away and finally made it. I got the car with the warning that if I didn’t continue with straight A’s, it would be taken away.”
Doing chores, working for the things you want, brings discipline to your life and teaches you responsibility and accountability:
The chores Meredith Lynn MacRae’s parents gave her to do, instilled “a proper work ethic” for her future. These are the most valuable lessons a parent can give you.
Experts have said, “If she or he had not been spoiled to death, he or she might have turned out differently!”
Chores taught Meredith Lynn MacRae and me to be willing to work hard to make our futures a certain tee.
Be grateful for your blessings and share them with others:
A well-educated young man from secondary school through postgraduate went to a series of interviews at a large company and “passed with flying colors”. His last interview was with the director of the company.
The director was very impressed with the young man’s excellent achievement in school. He asked, “Did you obtain scholarships in school?”
The Youngman answered, “No.”
The Director said, “Did your father pay for your school fees?”
The Youngman said, “My father passed away when I was a year old. It was my mother who paid for my school fees.”
The Director then asked, “Where did your mother work?”
The Youngman said, “My Mother worked as a clothes cleaner.”
The Director “asked him to show his hands.”
The Youngman showed the Director, “his hands that were smooth and perfect.”
The Director asked, “Have you ever helped her wash the clothes before?”
Youngman replied, “Never. My mother always wanted me to study and read books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.”
The Director said, “I have a request. When you go back home today, I want you to clean your Mother’s hands and see me tomorrow morning.”
“The Youngman felt his chance of landing the job was high.”
He arrived home and “happily requested his Mother let him clean her hands.”
“His mother felt strange. With mixed feelings, she showed her son her hands. The Youngman for the first time cleaned his Mother’s hands slowly. Tears fell as he did.”
His Mother’s hands were “wrinkled, callused, with many bruises on her hands.”
“His Mother’s hands were so painful that his mother shivered as they were cleaned just with water.”
The Youngman for “the first time” realized his Mother’s hands had washed clothes every day to enable him to pay his school fees. The bruises on his mother’s hands were the price his mother had to pay for his academic excellence for his future.”
The Youngman “after cleaning his Mother’s hands, washed all the remaining clothes for his Mother”. That evening he and his Mother talked for several hours.
The next morning, he went to the Director’s office. “The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes.”
Director, “Can you tell me what you have done and learned yesterday in your home?”
Young man, “I cleaned my Mother’s hands and I also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes.”
Director, “Tell me about your feelings?”
Youngman: 1) “I know now what appreciation is. Without my Mother, there would not be a successful me today.”
2) “By working together and helping my mother, I only now realized how difficult and tough it is to do something by yourself.”
3) “I appreciate the importance and value of family and relationships.”
The Director said, “This is what I want in my manager. I want to hire a person who appreciates others, and the suffering of others to get things done, and the person who would not put money as his only goal in life.”
The Youngman was hired by the Director. He “worked hard and received the respect of his team members. All team members worked diligently and supported each other. As a result, the company improved significantly.” (Darren Hardy, Success Mentor to CEOs and High-Performance Achievers, former publisher of Success Magazine shared this story.)
Who has helped you in your success and made it possible for you to succeed?
How have you thanked them?
Coach John Wooden said, “It takes 10 hands to make a basket.”
Remember to be a success and reach your goal it takes many teachers, coaches, friends, parents, and mentors to help you on your journey through life. No one does it alone.
What are 3 things you can do to thank your teachers, parents, coaches, mentors, and friends for helping you to succeed on your journey?
1) Send them a note, call them, or email them a note thanking them for helping you. (Start a notebook, begin today, and write in it the names of your teachers, mentors, coaches, parents, and friends who have made a difference in your life and do something nice for them.)
How have I shown my appreciation? I have written many articles and Radio Shows paying tribute to my mentors for the gifts they have taught me. This way their good deeds live on and are shared with others!
2) Every week help someone else by acts of kindness.
3) How do you feel when you help others achieve their goal? Do you smile and feel happier inside?
Remember that if we help others we will be helping ourselves at the same time to grow and improve.
Be grateful for your blessings and thank your teachers, mentors, friends, and coaches who have helped you on your journey.
How will you show gratitude for the gifts others have given you?