Communication is one of the most fundamental aspects of any relationship and without it, your relationship is not likely to survive the trials and tribulations it faces. If you are wondering whether or not you have enough communication in your relationship, you probably don’t. Typically, those who need to think about whether or not they do could improve upon their skills. Below, we will discuss ways that you can better communicate with your other half without arguing and yelling all of the time.
Say What We Mean
One of the biggest pitfalls when it comes to communication is that we do not say what we mean. When we start to say the wrong things, they are interpreted incorrectly by our significant other and this can lead to trouble. We never want to lead our partner in the wrong direction so just state our case and say what needs to be said.
One of the reasons it is important for us to be direct too is because being indirect can cause miscommunication and our partner may not pick up on what we mean or may interpret it differently than we do.
Don’t Place Blame
This can be extremely difficult for anyone, but we must avoid placing blame on our partner. Of course, there is a time and a place to put blame, but we cannot start out an argument by saying “you.”
One key to an argument or disagreement is that we should always place blame on ourselves first and foremost.
Listen To Your Partner
Another thing we need to do is listen to our partner when speaking with us. Even in the heat of an argument or disagreement, we need to remain calm and listen. Validate our partner’s feelings by letting him or her know that we understand and then apologize for what we did to cause him or her any upset. If we disregard our partner’s feelings or we are not paying attention when they speak, we will find that we will get nowhere in the argument except deeper into it.
Come To An Agreement
Most disagreements start because the two of you do not agree on something. Sit down and try to come to an agreement. For instance, if you two are arguing because they feel that they are doing dishes every night, we should offer to do them 3 or 4 nights of the week. This is a good compromise and can completely end an argument.
If we are not communicating properly in our relationship, we will run into problems. It is important that you and your partner are always talking about everything and coming up with mutual understanding. Respect each other at all times and let God be the center of your communication and relationship.