For all the mothers out there who want to improve their parenting strategies, here are some tips to be a good mom or even the best mom for your precious children.
1. Be healthy.
As a mother, always put the health of your children first. However, come to think of it—if you became sick and weak, how could you take care of your babies? Therefore, as much as you protect the health of your kids, do not take your own for granted. Eat right, get as much sleep as you can, be physically active, and take multivitamins, if necessary.
2. Consult experts for children’s proper health care.
It is a good thing to be surrounded by experienced mothers who are generous in giving parenting advice. However, when it comes to your kids’ health and safety concerns, it is best if you consult healthcare providers first before following their tips. For instance, if your child got sick, you should immediately go to their pediatrician rather than give them any medicine advised by concerned parents.
3. Make time for your kids.
Whether as a full-time or a working mom, you must remember that your main responsibility now is raising your children to become good citizens and reach their highest potential. Thus, no matter how busy you are, set aside time to personally take care of their needs, bond with them regularly, and be present whenever they need you.
4. Limit their exposure to gadgets.
Most kids these days are stuck with cellphones, computers, and other gadgets—which can be harmful to their well-being. This phenomenon is blamed by experts to be one of the culprits of obesity, poor social skill, and even mental problems, like depression, among Generation Z children.
Stop these from happening to your kids by limiting their gadgets and internet exposure. Instead, encourage them to meet with friends, play more outdoor games, and participate in physical activities.
5. Set house rules and be firm with them.
Just like how important it is to be systematic in running any organization, you need to have a system at home as well. This will help you discipline your children and train them to be responsible. For example, you could set a rule that bans television watching during weekdays, so they could focus on their studies. Having a curfew, especially for minors, is also a good idea.
6. Instill discipline into them.
In connection to no. 4, it is important that you make your children understand the need for discipline. Personally, I believe that a little spanking can help kids grow up more responsible. You should also use conditioning to train them up, like giving them a reward for getting good grades at school or not allowing them to play outside unless they have helped clean the house.
7. Teach them to be respectful.
You don’t want your children to grow up impolite—like bluntly talking back to those older than them or not even greeting their teachers. Good manners start at home, so it is your responsibility to teach them to be courteous and respectful. Teach them to honor their parents, seniors, and authorities, and to respect the beliefs and opinions of others.
8. Don’t pressure them to achieve something.
Yes, it would be great if your kids would always top their classes and bring home medals. However, not all children are academically inclined. If you pressure them to get perfect scores all the time, they might end up hating school with low self-esteem as a result of failing your expectations.
Instead of using pressure, encourage your children to love learning and value excellence. Explain to them the benefits of getting good grades and participating in class rather than scaring them with punishments and scolds for not doing well.
9. Train them to be responsible.
As early as possible, train your children to be responsible. One way to do this is by teaching and assigning them household chores. You should also encourage them to have a study habit and submit their school requirements on time.
10. Allow them to explore.
If you want your kids to grow up independent, smart, resourceful, and creative, then you should let them explore their environment. Let them play in the woods, meet new people, have summer jobs, join field trips, and go camping.
Yes, it is possible that there will be heartaches, failures, disappointments, and even dangers along the way. However, if you would not allow them to be exposed to these, how could they be ready for the harsh reality of life? The best that you can do is guide and supervise them on these adventures.
11. Provide avenues for them to develop their passion.
To help your children reach their highest potentials, you need to support their passion and talents. You can encourage them to join clubs or attend workshops that will help them improve their skills. Let them know that you are proud of what they can do.
12. Be a role model for them.
If you want your kids to grow up as well-mannered and responsible individuals with integrity, then you better show them how to be one. This is the hardest part of being a mother. Your children look up to you, so you need to behave as how you would want them to be. The best way to teach them is through your example.
13. Teach them to love God.
Don’t wait for the church to teach your kids about who God is, why they should love and follow Him, and how to pray. The best way for them to develop devotion and faith in Him is by growing in an environment where God is the center. Meaning, as parents, it is your mission to cultivate a home where your children will learn how to live a godly life.
14. Pray for them regularly.
No matter how much you give your best, you will never be perfect moms. You cannot protect or provide for your children for the rest of your lives. The most powerful thing that you can do is to pray for them daily. God can do so much more for your children—even beyond what you can ask for.
At the end of everything, your kids just need the most from you is your love. As long as they know they are loved, they will feel secure, complete, and confident. More than providing them with material things, strive more to be open and expressive to your children about how much they mean to you.